Toronto’s Playful Dominatrix

Bastienne Cross offers professional and lifestyle FemDom, BDSM, kink & fetish consultations and clips. Relaxed, non-traditional, safe submission for everyone! Proudly located in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

Femdom, BDSM, Kink & Fetish

Casual and welcoming, I might be the perfect Pro Domme for you! I am lighthearted and genuinely kinky. I have been a professional BDSM and fetish provider for 8 years and I’m the proud creator of one of the top earning FemDom clip studios on Clips4Sale. I have over 2 million views on PornHub and I've been mentioned in the Huffington Post. Accessible, LGBT inclusive, sex-positive play is my passion. Find out more about my interests to see if we’re a good match.

 
 

Who is Bastienne Cross?

I’m a safe, creative and well reviewed Toronto Dominatrix. I offer submissive experiences from my private play space in South Etobicoke as well as a weekly FemDom podcast, an interactive OnlyFans and a frequently updated BDSM blog. 

Trust, mutual respect and a sense of humour are the foundation of BDSM for me. I play with all genders, backgrounds and experience levels.

Physically, I am tall, curvy and 100% natural. My bubble butt attracts lots of mommy roleplay enthusiasts, facesitting fans and fart fetishists. Ultimately though, I always try to transcend the physical and offer something more, whether that simply be a fun escape or a listening ear.

BDSM and power exchange are truly my life’s passion. Over time, I’ve developed a distinctive style of dominance that is playful and genuine. I love applying my creativity to each scene and to each soul that stands before me. I am a lighthearted leader and dedicated student of human vulnerability and the ways we control our own pain.

Have you been looking for a creative, down-to-earth, Domme? You've found her! Come enjoy my playful approach to BDSM.

What is FemDom?

FemDom is an abbreviation for the term ‘female domination’. It is a niche interest within the larger BDSM community where the woman takes the dominant, sexual role. Domination and submission are subjective experiences and manifest differently for each person.

BDSM is all roleplay. By choosing to play, you begin creating an alter ego for yourself. This can be very creative, cathartic and exciting. Your role within BDSM evolves over time and is only limited by your imagination. Exploring submission with a professional dominant is a great way to gain experience and explore your sexuality in a safe environment.

What is a BDSM Session Like?

A BDSM session involves a predetermined amount of time set aside by two (or more) people to explore some variation of power exchange. This can include any combination of the traditional elements found in the BDSM acronym: Bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism, submission and domination.

Most players seek a particular feeling from their play time such as loss of control, a thrill, eroticized humiliation or relief from decision making. The range of activities that elicit these feelings range vastly from subtle to extreme, depending on the recipient.

I prefer sessions that are chill and fun, opting to play with sweet, self aware people of all backgrounds. A sense of humour and the ability to stay present will serve you well when experiencing a BDSM session with me.

Testimonials

“You’ll see how much time and emotional energy she invests and you’ll be moved by it, in more ways than one.”

- Mark, client since 2021

“It is so rare you meet someone so respectful, intelligent, and open. Her spirit is in what she does”

- Tom, client since 2019

“A session with Bastienne is like enjoying a visit with your most intimate of friends.”

- Rosie, client since 2021

“I'm no longer ashamed and it's been a great burden off my shoulders. You were the catalyst to all of this!"

- Fart Boi, client since 2020

Safe, Creative & Grounded

Respect is earned and trust is essential in any BDSM play. I don’t demand submission, I prefer to earn it through hard work and vulnerability. I love drawing from my collection of experiences and sharing my passion for FemDom. I seek to offer a sense of belonging and self-acceptance to those who choose to explore with me.

I am proud to offer a diverse collection of services, including: In-person consultations, a regularly updated blog, how-to guides, video and audio podcasts, literotica, FemDom clips and more. Cultivating authentic connections through the practice of power exchange is my true passion.

 

The Trust & Thrust Podcast

Welcome to my FemDom podcast! Started in the fall of 2020, this is a peek behind the curtain and straight into my kinky, nerdy life. Every week I talk about the fascinating world of professional and lifestyle BDSM. It’s not erotica, more like a kinky diary where I share my experiences, revelations and advice to those exploring sexual submission and domination. You can find The Trust & Thrust Podcast on Spotify, Audible, Amazon Music and other podcast platforms. Explore the free mini-episode archive here or join the private podcast on substack and gain access to over 100, full episodes.

Looking For More?

You can find me all over the internet! I’ve got lots of clips, pictures, podcasts, even an Etsy shop for you to peruse and explore. Whether you're looking for education and guidance or something more… erotic, I’ve got what you’re looking for! Please take a look through all my links below and be sure to follow, subscribe, like and comment to help support me in my adventures and to keep abreast of all my kinky happenings.

  • BDSM for Beginners

    Are you curious about submission but don’t know where to start? BDSM doesn’t have to be rigid and intimidating, my domination style is fun and inclusive. I love sharing my knowledge and passion with curious explorers of all experience levels. Beginners start here!

  • BDSM, Kink & Fetish

    I take pride in offering experiences that I’m personally passionate about. Some of my favourite sessions include things like pegging, facesitting, spanking, foot worship, mommy domme roleplay, ballbusting and fart fetish - to name a few! Check out my full list of kinks.

  • Private Play Space

    My play space is in south Etobicoke, 15 minutes from downtown and the airport. It’s stocked with kinky toys and great vibes! Come make memories with me in this entirely unique environment. Welcome to the kinky space that I call The Wiggle Room.

  • Inclusive, Diverse Play

    I love playing with all types of people, including: male submissives, female submissives, couples, trans people, beginners, all racial, cultural and economic backgrounds and anyone above the age of consent. The diversity of my clientele is a point of pride for me!

  • Meet & Greet

    Too nervous to dive right into a session? Maybe you’re just looking for advice? Let’s chat over tea in this low pressure introductory session. Check out the meet and greet option on my booking page.

  • FEMDOM DUOS

    Creative, absurd and thoroughly kinky duo Domme scenes are available with Aspasia The Great. We both bring experience and levity to every session we host. Treat yourself to this experience.