I'd been waiting for this opportunity for years, listening to my peers talk about their female clients and wondering when my day would come. A couple weeks ago, I received a session request from a woman named Aria. Ultimately, there are a few crucial steps between the initial contact and actually meeting, so I pinched myself and pushed my excitement into the future. I woke up the next morning to the notification of her deposit, securing her time with me. It was really happening.
I prepared for her session the way I always do, reviewing her booking form, taking notes and letting my mind wander with the details of her kinks, allowing mine to fill in the blanks. Like every scene with a new person, there's only so much preparation I can do. The chemistry of the entire scene doesn't reveal itself until the moment I am present with this new person. There is so much to take in about the way a person presents themselves to me and I feed off of that energy. I always hope for a naturally submissive vibe and Aria did not disappoint. She was nervous and adorable but polite and present. All the things that send my predatory attributes into hyper drive. I've always been turned on by sweetness, I want to hold it down and violate it and this was no exception.
Like putty in my hands, she did everything I told her to and surprised both of us by wanting to do more. For a first timer, she was truly impressive but as the more experienced player, I knew that this was the easy part, this is the fun part. Navigating the potential drop afterwards is another beast and one she will likely be alone for so we stayed in the height of the scene for only a few minutes. As I beat her I could feel the emotional pain being cut open and my cane was the knife. This is what I wait for, dancing in the blood, laughing through the darkness, rejoicing in this pure expression of humanity, something we all share, the feeling of pain. I had wondered if I could beat a woman like I do men, and my answer was here, I could.
I love humiliation play because it is so vulnerable. This person is taking control of their deepest fear and they're appointing me to the helm, I'm the executioner and the only witness. To plunge a person into the depths of their shame means you must also have arms strong enough to pull them out from the depths. One foot in the mud of cruelty and one firmly on the shore of humanity. We went slow and eventually became two people again. After we parted, I rode my top high well into the next day.
As I continue my journey with any new submissive, I love the process of building trust. Entering slowly into the dark realm of their psyche and mine. Two counterpoints, balancing perfectly on a teeter totter, an oily black abyss of shame and fear below. Being human and perfectly inhuman at the same time, the weight of the other being the only thing that keeps you firmly on that plank.
Finding a compatible Dominatrix is an important, exciting experience. There are many components to a successful scene and, hopefully, a successful, long lasting D/s dynamic. When you seek a Dominatrix, you are essentially seeking a particular feeling. First, you must articulate what feeling you're seeking, then you must find the woman you believe can elicit that experience. Most of this is psychological, the work you do before a scene is almost as important as the scene itself. The visual of your Domme, the words she presents, the setting you meet her in and the anticipation are almost comparable to the activities you choose to perform during the session. I have opened the door to clients who had worked themselves half into SubSpace prior to even meeting me. The excitement of an eager submissive, shaking from arousal and anticipation is a beautiful starting point for a scene and generally bodes well for the tone you're creating together in your particular D/s dynamic.
Established Toronto Dominatrix, Mistress Mindy, has distilled the process of finding a Domme into 3 steps. Read her article here.
If you think I might suit your submissive needs, my website pages are listed in approximate order of what is most relevant to a new client. On my homepage I've listed my 10 step process for submission in order of importance. Follow these steps and soon you'll be at my feet shaking is delight. Enjoy perusing my site & thank you for reading!
Submission begins in solitude. It is either a nature you were born with or it is a choice you've made for this moment. Your motivation doesn't concern me, your execution does. Hey, if you're going to do something, do it well.
I'm sexually dominant. It's impossible to distill the nature from the nurture but ultimately it doesn't matter because this is who I am. Present yourself as my natural counterpoint. Present me with a mind that has soaked in the bliss of female dominance and I will step into my natural role with you. I've felt the shame of being different, not following what my gender role has prescribed. Then I found this place, here with you. So when you submit, you're telling me that I'm more than acceptable, the things that were bad are amazing and those feelings were all wrong. I'll do the same because the truth is, I'm enriched by submission, it's a beautiful, complementary energy to mine, it validates my nature and creates a story where blank pages once sat.
So please, don't tell me that you're usually dominant. Don't tell me that you're just doing this for fun. If you're going to do something, do it well. If you're going to submit, submit. It's my favourite state, don't dangle it in front of my face before hiding it behind your back. Hand it over, I'll do the same.
Another post about why subbies are the bestest by Lady Pim.
I love my name and respond to it in the same, organic way I respond to my birth name. Bastienne is the female version of the name Bastian, the main character from the movie Neverending Story. Before I did Domination, I (jokingly) chose Bastienne as a name to refer to the side of me that emerges when I'm PMSing. Yup. My domination name comes from having bad periods. I would say "Bastienne is here" and significant others would turn tail and flee. This alter ego would get blamed for a lot of drama, and I truly struggled to accept her as a part of me. As a generally easy going person, I'd let a lot of things slide but Bastienne would show up at the end of the month and clean house. When I got into Domination, she finally had a place she belonged.
Although she was at the root of every problem I had, she ended up being the solution as well. I gave up on avoiding, ignoring and repressing Bastienne, it proved impossible, she was an immovable presence, unaffected by my weak attempts at extinction. I started leaning in and listening to what she wanted, considering if these are things I could do, articulating the urges into words. She wanted control, a lot of control. Stepping into Bastienne feels like I'm energetically drawing everything towards me while remaining entirely still, focused, quiet and ready. Sometimes I can even feel my eyes dilate, entering into consumption mode with the rest of my being. Bastienne is always hungry and seeks to destroy, she is a true succubus. There is a baseline of anger that feeds this character which is never expressed in outbursts but rather through sheer, sick joy. Bastienne feeds at the apex of a humiliating act. The look of regret is what she truly wants, it's what she's waiting for and when she sees it, she laughs in genuine delight. She will stalk you patiently until you forfeit, nothing less will do, then she'll feast.
You don't need you to call me Mistress or Goddess, although you can if you like, it does nothing for me. What I really want to hear is my name, just call me Bastienne.
" The day, hour and minute had finally come. I could barely wait! I packed their tribute and headed over to Bastienne's Lair to put myself at their mercy. To give a little background I had sessioned with both Evangeline Ducharme and Bastienne Cross before, although this type of full immobility, immersion, and objectification was actually brand new to me, and despite having had other sessions, both with them both, seperately, and with other Dommes.
As I approached the door, I noticed it was open a crack and inside was utterly dark. That was new! I could see already this was going to be different than previous sessions. As I entered the darked doorway, I started to greet them and was "shushed". I was grabbed, blindfolded, stripped and told to/pushed to lay on my back. I was wrapped, beginning at my shoulders, and was to be wrapped to my feet, but i ended being on the edge of panic, had to ask to have at least part of my legs left free, it did not appear to impede the scene, much. My head was pushed into a hole of some sort, the plastic access was pretty tight but with a little bit of twisting I got in. The blindfold was removed and was replaced with "water" proof swimming goggles. At some point I started to say something else and was corrected with a slap "shh".
lol, Toilets do not speak!
So, all I saw above me was the face of my users and a round hole like the hole of a toilet seat. This was it, I was getting my wish, for better or worst I was on this train to toiletsville. For now it was heavenly, but with me knowing what was coming it was a also a bit terrifying! So, to maximize the effect and build the scene Evangeline and Bastienne began to chat, utterly "ignoring" this bound up lump. It was the sort of chit-chat you might expect from women in the bathroom going about their business, (and as if there were no men around) They discussed their SO's even, to my chagrin!
I occasionally got "Stepped on or used as a foot stool". Being stepped on by a full grown woman, a Domme, it not something you can ignore. It's both uncomfortable and incredibly erotic at the same time! When they started it became a blur. Bastienne is able to pee litres is seems. And mixed up the poop with an enema to make sure it "permeated" the toilet. She just randomly squirted on me while talking the most vanilla talk. I learned later the both of them had been eating a high fiber low carb noodle, which just hugely cranked up the intensity.
I'm partial to fart torture as well. As Evangeline was standing waiting to take her turn, she farted, and they both laughed. I remember thinking, hey why is that not here! LoL If Bastienne was large quantities, endlessly, Evangeline was urgency, quickly, and all NOW. She REALLY needed to go. So BOOM she peed hard and I was actually felt that I was going to drown unless I drank it all. Which was impossible cause it was so much at once. When she shifted forward, I knew what was coming them, but could not really prepare, how do you prepare? Crack hiss pop, then bam, smack on my face, more and more and more. My face was already half covered, but after a moment of quiet, she pushed and more crackling. She was not done yet!
After an eternity of this she was done, they laughed at the ridiculous picture of a mountain on my face and the were not done yet. After more trample/stepping, Bastienne finished "cleaning" herself out. Most enema water and chunks on my face, while above la-la-de-da, chit-chat continued :)! The Juxtaposition of the normalcy, voiding your bladder with your girlfriend with utter depravity that a normal everyday event can become in the right context (your face in just the right place) Afterwards my two Dommes finished their conversations and started discussing prep for future joint sessions! They packed all the poop into a condom to be frozen for another sub (wow, lol), laughing as they did it.
Usually anxiety prevents me from getting hard in a session. In this one it was only the shrink wrap that prevented it. Having those wonderful asses above me dropping all their products on my face was exactly what I needed, they really nailed it. After I was freed and cleaned myself up (ridiculously hard to not get it all over the place), I spent some time talking with them, formally it's aftercare, but they're just a pleasure to talk to in any context.
Bastienne explained that they decided that to get me properly into the objectification (in the moment, not in my head) scene they needed to immediately immerse me upon arrival. It worked!! I absolutely recommend both Bastienne and Evangeline!! They take great care in building the scene! You will not feel like a thing, unless that's what you want LOL, then you will be made to feel like the object you aspire to!
Thanks for the wonderful scene, and wonderful Dommes! "
- Panda Bear
Visit Mistress Evangeline Ducharme's website here.
I celebrated Family Day in the kinkiest way possible, with three of my Dominant Female friends. We hosted an all-day Taboo Roleplay themed event and had an absolute blast while doing it. We each played different roles, Jayne Doe was the deviant cousin, I was an aunty while Henry & Mistress Evangeline Ducharme vacillated between aunty & mommy roles, depending on their mood. I LOVE working in groups or within a duo with fellow Dommes, so this was an utter delight. The day flew by for all of us and we ended up hanging out after our subbies had left.
Thanks to everyone who came & played with us. Keep an eye out for upcoming events, I love hosting on Holidays! There's a built-in theme, everyone has time off and they're often so delightfully blasphemous!
I boycotted Christmas this year & I loved it. Instead of spending time making small talk and dreading my plans for the day I hosted an all day debauchery fest at Studio Ludus and called it "Fuck Christmas". From 8am until 8pm, I played the day away and it was AH-MA-ZING. The holidays create anxiety & sadness for a lot of people. Pressure to get the right gifts, spend time with family and just generally be merry, leaves a sour taste in many people's mouths. Instead of being something to look forward to, the approaching holiday season often creates a sense of dread as you pull up the mental laundry list of things you have to do. Plus, those of us who are new to the city, aren't close with family or just don't observe religious holidays end up feeling totally left out.
Well my dear perverts, I say Fuck That! Let's make our own, devious fun & when your co-workers ask "How was your Christmas?" you can say, "It was.. relaxing" while you try not to smile. Keep an eye out next year & FUCK CHRISTMAS with me!
I've toyed with my booking procedure enough to know exactly what works for me, yields the best scenes & attracts the best clients. I'm an introvert, I value my alone time very highly and need to plan ahead in order to assure I get enough of it. When I host sessions,I give it my all, before, during & after. I pride myself on investing my full energy into creating scenes that excite me while also enveloping the kinks of my guest. It's a creative process, one that I find challenging and invigorating.
I would make more money if I offered same day bookings but I don't want more money, I want great scenes. This is an important distinction I made through trial & error. My experiences have informed my booking process and the one I use currently has served me well.
Treat my booking process the same way you would any other professional service. If you attempt to exempt yourself from any of my requirements, I'll assume you're not a respectful person in general and wish you the best before moving on. Advising me of your very busy schedule or your successful entrepreneurship which precludes you from booking ahead serves two important functions, it tells me that:
A) You lack respect for MY business.
B) You're deceptive.
So having a busy schedule or owning a business truly prevents you from booking appointments in advance? Cool. Let me see your calendar. Are all the days empty besides today? Didn't think so. This would mean you never make it to the dentist, you're not capable of planning business meetings ahead of time, you're not able to make it to people's birthdays or plan vacations. What a sad, erratic existence.
The fact is, if something is important, you make time for it. If it's not that important or something you'd like to fit in at the last minute if you've got free time, I get it but that means we're not compatible. I plan ahead, I show up, I give it my all, please do the same.
As a new patient, we'd like to welcome you to our practice. We've helped countless patients find relief and we're excited to help you do the same. Our methods have been considered unconventional, perhaps even extreme, but they are always highly effective and that is our primary concern.
Relief is our primary focus, alleviating clients of symptoms such as freedom, superiority, willpower, autonomy and an inclination to control. Using our renowned, in-depth assessment methods, we will quickly diagnose your symptoms & begin treatment immediately.
Be advised: Persistent cases may require several treatments.
We specialize in Men's Prostate Health, Gender/Sex Re-Assignment, Annual Check Ups & Medical Waste Management. Upon contacting us for treatment, please advise us which of our procedures you are interested in.
Men's Prostate Health: Did you know that men need to have their asses violated at least once a year by a Female Dominant? It's true! Our research has shown that not only is it a sign of a healthy mental attitude, it helps the community as well. In addition to providing a stimulating and powerful dose of ego-checking for the patient, we're also donating $10 from every treatment to a prostate health charity for the entire month of November! There's no excuse to wait, book your prostate analysis & full attitude treatment today.
Gender/Sex Re-Assignment: Some clients simply need relief from the harmful and embarrassing expressions of their birth gender and we're here to help. This can be done in a variety of ways depending on client needs. Stripping clients of their gender manifestations is a complex procedure involving both the mind & body. Some prefer to remain conscious and engaged, while others prefer to be "out". Diagnosis and treatment will determine our gender management plan, depending on individual client needs. An overall experience of docility, contentment & humility is guaranteed.
Annual Check Up: Our comprehensive analysis was designed to efficiently diagnose and remedy underlying symptoms of dominant or controlling behaviour. We aggressively treat all symptoms of male ego, leaving clients with a renewed sense of obedience and deference.
Medical Waste Management: This treatment is specifically designed for persistent or extreme cases. Only available on the weekends, this treatment is sure to alter any and all indications of superiority. Clients are effectively turned into our medical waste basket during a milking procedure on a regular client. Research shows that objectification & humiliation are the only proven treatment methods for those with severe symptoms. This method can also be used as a preventative treatment for those interested in maintaining their current submissive vitality.
The procedure involves full immobilization of the clients body with clear, medical wrap, this facilitates a lessening of the clients ideations of bodily control and autonomy. The client's head is inserted into the side of a medium sized garbage bin and their mouth is secured open. The visual perspective from the bottom of a garbage bin has proven to be an intensely reliable method. As the client sinks into a deep state of resignation, they witness the entirety of a milking procedure performed on another client, this involves several extractions which are then dumped into the waste bin.
Our highly effective procedures have been carefully curated to treat a variety of symptoms. We welcome you to join us throughout the month of November for a medical assessment you'll never forget.
The Nurses will see you now.
When prepping for a pegging scene, my best advice is to listen to your body. You know your body best, if you feel a little "full" than you probably are. Use an enema bulb, I prefer this one, flush yourself out a couple times until the water is essentially clear. That's it. Getting a feel for your body and giving yourself a few flushes is what I recommend. For more detailed instructions, refer to the illustration below.
Lovely, little sadist living in Toronto, Ontario. This is my journal, where my brain gets to play.